Death, does time heal the pain?
I wanted to write about something that has somewhat shaped who I am today.
I lost my dad twenty years ago soon to be twenty-one. As with a lot of situations in life, some say time heals all wounds. But does it?
When my dad passed I lost a part of me. He never saw me graduate. He never saw me get my first job. He never saw other things that took place in my life. How can time heal that? How can time replace the fact that you will no longer see, feel or hear that person? One thing for sure is that time changes things but it may not heal things. I am not the same person. I had to in someway become someone else.
I have friends, family that have at one point lost someone dear to them. Some have been left alone by their loss. It changes you. Some may cry. Some may hold it in. Some may deal with it by doing something to mask the pain. Either way we are changed.
Some will say life goes on and yes that is true it does but it goes on while you learn to adjust becoming someone else. Yes , some of you stays the same but some of you doesn’t.
Different people have different beliefs and that is fine. Everyone is entitled to believe what they want. This is not being written to push any thoughts or beliefs on anyone but it is being written to let anyone that may read this know that it is ok if time didn’t heal your pain. That it is ok to cry, yell whatever just don’t mask the pain. Let it out. Talk it out. Write it out if need be but whatever you may choose just don’t hold it in.
Recently I found myself watching an episode of Sex in the City. Carrie went on to bring up the question have we become romance-intolerant?? The question is have we?
It seems that gone are the days when doors were opened, flowers were sent, dates were made, etc etc. The hopelessly romantic side in me wonders why is that the case?
We live in a time were texts has replaced a phone call, virtual flowers has replaced real flowers, staying home has replaced a night out. What happened to date nights? A good old-fashioned card whether given in person or sent in the mail barely happens. I remember a time when receiving a card or letter was a real treat. It meant that the person actually took the time to write something rather than sending what at times can be a very impersonal text. It’s more common today to see a conversation taking place with people having their eyes into their phones. Where did talking (I mean deep personal talking) go??
Now I am not by any means saying that everyone has fallen into this category because chivalry still exists among a few but why does it only have to be a few? And, yes, it needs to take place among two people in a relationship, not just one. It goes back to my page title, we live in a MEME world! Perhaps, why we don’t see chivalry as much.
It should be a new hashtag, #bringbackchivalry!
The hopelessly romantic in me will keep looking for it
I wanted to write about the recent event that took place in Puerto Rico. Hurricane Maria hit Puerto Rico September 20th. It left just about the whole island without power. She took houses, lives, trees, bridges, etc.
Many have argued well Puerto Ricans are not U.S. citizens. Some will say they deserve nothing. Some will say they deserved what they got.
While I will not make this a post about politics or race, I will say that regardless of the two they are still people. They are part of mankind or humankind, whatever you’d prefer. Which ever you choose in both words exists the word “kind”. Something that sad to say barely exists. I chose love as my title because if love and kindness existed more maybe today would be a better place.
For me it is from Puerto Rico that I came into existence. My parents are from there. I still have lots of family there and while they really didn’t lose too much materially emotionally and mentally they lost a lot.
I was there just about a year ago and while my memories are beautiful sad to say they may just be that memories. I do not know the extent of the damage done to some of the places I’ve been but below you will find some pictures of my sights as I remember them from my trip.
This one’s for you my beloved Puerto Rico!!
Hello! My name is Miriam Reid. Though writing is not new to me, writing in this way is.
I hope with this new way of writing I am able to help myself by growing within my thoughts but perhaps help others who may find themselves in the same situation.
I chose to title my first entry….WHY. Why, you may ask. The answer because at some point in our every day life we ask ourselves why.
Why? Perhaps we may never know.
The title of my site is It’s a MIMI (MEME) World. My nickname is Mimi but also as things in this world become worse and worse we find ourselves living in a mi/me time. Everything or everyone at some point is all about self.
Which leads back to the title…..Why?
Maybe as I write more and more the answer to that at least from my perspective will be answered.
Thank you for reading and hopefully you will be back for more.