It’s been a while since I posted so I apologize for the inconsistency. Some things have been going on personally, to not feeling well and having writers block I kind of haven’t been in a writing mood. But anyway this is something I had been thinking about hope you enjoy!
A couple of years ago I went to a wedding. The officiate during the ceremony held up a glass box. He said it was a gift for the couple. He went on to say that even though the glass box was pretty on its own what you decide to put in it can only enhance the beauty. He than went on to say that as a couple from the outside they looked beautiful but what they decide to put into their marriage will only enhance the beauty. He finished by saying that the box was empty and the marriage will be too unless they put what was needed to make it last.
That leads to my thought. In life we may come across different relationships whether within a marriage/ significant other or a relationship between friends. In the beginning they are really just an empty box in a sense. It’s up to the individuals to put something into the relationship.
Every one is different and everyone wants different things out of a relationship however, I think that most will agree that there are some fundamental components no matter the kind of relationship. I’m not an expert by any means nor am trying to tell anyone what would be best for your relationship.
I think that sometimes we hear way too often that we aren’t getting this or that but perhaps you can ask yourself what are you putting into the box or are you taking too much out and not replenishing the box that it soon finds itself empty?
I love to dress up. So when you think about any relationship is like dressing up in a sense. You add layers to an outfit so likewise, layers need to be added. It can be communication, trust, honesty, loyalty, forgiveness, determination, patience, understanding, love. These are just a few that come to my mind. I was talking with my cousin and she mentioned fear. I said “why fear”? She said “fear because stepping into something new is scary. It’s changing or modifying your own life to fit someone else’s”. We both agreed it’s a balance. I think while it can be scary and fear may creep in it’s a good fear.
I have had the privilege to learn things along the way. I’ve been able to learn from past mistakes and can now see where I’ve went wrong.
So when it’s all said and done, ask yourself whether it’s your personal relationship between your spouse or significant other or a relationship between you and someone you call a friend, what are you going to put in the pretty box on a continuous basis? What layers will you add to the relationship?
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