Box

What will you put in the box? What layers will you add?

Hello Again!

It’s been a while since I posted so I apologize for the inconsistency. Some things have been going on personally, to not feeling well and having writers block I kind of haven’t been in a writing mood. But anyway this is something I had been thinking about hope you enjoy!

A couple of years ago I went to a wedding. The officiate during the ceremony held up a glass box. He said it was a gift for the couple. He went on to say that even though the glass box was pretty on its own what you decide to put in it can only enhance the beauty. He than went on to say that as a couple from the outside they looked beautiful but what they decide to put into their marriage will only enhance the beauty. He finished by saying that the box was empty and the marriage will be too unless they put what was needed to make it last.

That leads to my thought. In life we may come across different relationships whether within a marriage/ significant other or a relationship between friends. In the beginning they are really just an empty box in a sense. It’s up to the individuals to put something into the relationship.

Every one is different and everyone wants different things out of a relationship however, I think that most will agree that there are some fundamental components no matter the kind of relationship. I’m not an expert by any means nor am trying to tell anyone what would be best for your relationship.

I think that sometimes we hear way too often that we aren’t getting this or that but perhaps you can ask yourself what are you putting into the box or are you taking too much out and not replenishing the box that it soon finds itself empty?

I love to dress up. So when you think about any relationship is like dressing up in a sense. You add layers to an outfit so likewise, layers need to be added. It can be communication, trust, honesty, loyalty, forgiveness, determination, patience, understanding, love. These are just a few that come to my mind. I was talking with my cousin and she mentioned fear. I said “why fear”? She said “fear because stepping into something new is scary. It’s  changing or modifying your own life to fit someone else’s”. We both agreed it’s a balance. I think while it can be scary and fear may creep in it’s a good fear.

I have had the privilege to learn things along the way. I’ve been able to learn from past mistakes and can now see where I’ve went wrong.

So when it’s all said and done, ask yourself whether it’s your personal relationship between your spouse or significant other or a relationship between you and someone you call a friend, what are you going to put in the pretty box on a continuous basis? What layers will you add to the relationship?

Thank you

XOXO

Mimi World

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Cold

Can you find the warmth in the cold?

Hello again!

The past few days have been cold and we are only a few weeks into winter.

Some people like the cold and snowy weather but for me personally I can’t stand it. As I get older,  the more and more I just dislike it.

Some days it feels like you can’t put enough on to feel warm. When it snows, however, I will admit it looks pretty as it falls but then comes the aftermath.  Salt gets everywhere. As it starts to melt, it gets slushy and messy For a person who likes to where different shoes, the snow is just not the best thing for it.

Today it is snowing again and although I may feel how I feel about it,  there is something that seems very calming about it to me. It looks pure, clean and almost magical as its falling. Almost like a clean slate until you step in it of course.

While the temperatures have been quite cold, somehow something about it seems warm. Warm because as I think about it I’m alive. I am able to see, feel, hear, walk, something that perhaps some may not be able to do.

It’s amazing that although the temperatures may be cold and it may feel very cold, somehow warmth can be achieved.

The thought that comes to mind is this, if it’s possible to find warmth literally why can’t we find warmth figuratively?

At this time I think about those that may be going through something that may seem cold. Whatever the situation it may feel like it’s freezing, like you will never see the warmth, but just like winter comes and goes, so will the times of coldness come and go as well!

As the new year has started, maybe there have been things that have gone on that you wonder will they change? Maybe it’s a relationship that needs to be mended, perhaps within the family. Maybe it’s a job change that you’ve been fearing. Maybe it’s finally starting something that you’ve dreamed of starting. Maybe it’s your health or financial situations that you’ve been struggling with. We can probably go on and on.

Whatever it is, find the warmth in it because just like the snow will melt and warmer days are soon to come, so will things in life change. At the moment they may feel cold but hopefully in time and with effort, they too will get better and warm.

Thank you

Stay Warm!

Xoxo

Mimi World

 

 

2017

A year coming to an end

Hello again!

Today is the last day of this year! As it winds down I think of the next coming year.

I would say 2017 was a lot for me. Physically and emotionally.

I went through some changes in my personal life. Reconnected with old friends. Some helped me to see things differently. Some helped me to see that if I can’t be loved for who I am now than you shouldn’t love me when in your eyes I’ve become better.

I still have a lot of growing to do but I think that growth is a never-ending process. Personally, I’ve learned a lot about myself and the direction I want to go in. Some may agree some may not but for once I need to think about MeMe!

The one thing I’m excited about is that I started this blog. It has been an outlet for me. Going into 2018, I have some visions on where I want to take it and things I’d like to work on to make it and me grow. We never really know where things may lead us but one thing that I know is I can no longer live by FEAR.

I found this acronym for fear: (I do not take credit for this I found it through google)

F-Forget                      F-Face

E-Everything             E-Everything

A-And                         A-And

R-Run                         R-Rise

I must admit that I have always been the type to run and sometimes it is easier to do just that. However, by me doing just that I’ve gotten the same results. So however hard it may or will be, I have to choose the latter. I have to rise and face it. I may fall lots of times along the way but I must continue to get up. It is true some things are easier said than done but whether small or big steps the point is to keep taking them.

Some have said, well you don’t live by what you say and to them they are entitled to their opinion. What I do know is that I’ve taken some steps that for me were hard to take. I am a work in progress and I think it is safe to say that as a human race we all are!

Anyway, what are some goals you all would like for the next year? Remember, keep growing, keep learning but above all do it with a smile because after all a smile is the best accessory one can wear!

Tomorrow is the beginning of twelve new chapters, 365 new days. We get to write the story!

Thank you to those that keep pushing me and have supported me along the way!

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Let’s start the book with LOVE and don’t forget your smile!

 

FAMILY

Family…..is it only through blood?

Hello again!

Today I had a conversation with a friend. We got to talking about family or rather the word family.

I say word family because I think to everyone that particular word has a different meaning. Dictionary.Com defines the word family in different ways. These are two of the many ways; (1) any group of persons closely related by blood, as parents, children, uncles, aunts, and cousins; and (2) all those persons considered as descendents of a common progenitor.

It is true that among many families there exist different situations that may either make them united or not. As with any relationship, it takes an effort. However, from my personal experience I’ve found that it is easier to have a better dynamic within a friendly relationship than that of a blood relationship. Some will say that they get more loyalty from that of a friend than they do from someone who is blood related.

For some, families tend to unite when someone may pass. Or for those who celebrate holidays, for them that may be their time. For others they may get together regularly, weekend dinners or a monthly get together. Yearly family reunions may work for others because they’re families are just so big. Some may feel that social media and technology has somewhat changed the dynamic of a family. To some it is a blessing and curse.

For me, family has become something that I honestly don’t know if it still exists.

Whatever the case for you all reading, I’d love to know what your opinion on family is? Must family be only blood related? Feel free to leave your comments below. Thank you for reading!

TORN

When you come to a split, what will you decide?

Hello again!

Sometimes in life we may find ourselves in a situation that leaves us torn. Torn inside having a difficult time trying to decide.

We may feel that we need to do what’s right even though that may not bring complete happiness. Or perhaps it’s the thought of the unknown that scares us. Maybe we may know what we want but the thought of perhaps hurting someone in the process stops us from moving forward.

There are some that just deciding comes easy for them. They know. They choose. They move forward without being stuck. Than there are some that the thought process of deciding almost overwhelms them that they feel they can’t even get their thoughts together. They think and think and continue to think. They come up with some sort of decision but what happens, they think again. They become stuck, almost frozen, afraid to move forward.

In 1776, the Declaration of Independence was signed. In it the words “Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness” were written. In 2006, the movie Pursuit of Happiness came out. Dictionary.Com gives this definition for pursuit: an effort to secure or attain; quest: the pursuit of happiness, any occupation; pastime, or the like, in which a person is engaged regularly or customarily.

The question therein lies, if we get past being torn and decide, will we always still find ourselves in the pursuit of happiness?


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What will we decide

MIMI

Hello Again.

This week I chose the title Mimi. Some may wonder why? Well, to be honest, I was a little stuck on what to write about this week so I decided to write a little about myself. I want to apologize for this post being longer than usual.

For the longest, I dreamed of being a writer on top of being a wedding cake designer but one of the things that has always stopped me was DOUBT. This platform has given me the ability to write about things that I often times think about. To recap some of the titles I used, I will explain why they are dear to me.

The first that I wrote about was the question, Why. I chose that because I always find myself asking why? Why do some relationships change, why people can’t be more kind, why sometimes me as a person I don’t think I’m enough, why sometimes I don’t think I’m pretty enough, strong enough, wise enough you name it. Why sometimes people see things one way and refuse to see all sides. The list can go on. With all of that leads the doubt.

The truth is, that I think some people may struggle with the same thoughts. Now I am in no way trying to tell anyone what to feel but for me what I come to learn is that I have to be enough for me, feel pretty enough for me because at the end of the day no one can do it for me. Also, that if I continue to let doubt get in the way I will never let the opportunity of seeing full potential come in. It’s not easy. With each day new struggles and anxieties come but I need to keep growing.

The next title was love. I wrote about love for Puerto Rico but overall LOVE is such a fundamental value that I wish was taught more. In my mind love can supersede so many things but it requires action something that sometimes can be lacking.

Following that was hopelessly romantic. I spoke again from my viewpoint not that of others. Chivalry still exists, I know. Yes, it shouldn’t be one-sided. A few people mentioned that they felt it went away when women did not want to be seen as lesser. The question still on hand is, does it mean that we throw away the kindness of perhaps holding the door for someone, saying thank you, going on dates, having actual conversations? All because as a woman we don’t want to be seen as weak or less? Again, please, I am not saying that all women feel this way.

Lost, may have been one of the post that was most dear to me because I spoke about my dad. Some may have felt that I was trying to tell people how to feel or that they should move on. That was not the case. Losing my dad was extremely hard. I still deal with it. Everyday we may hear or see something that may remind us of our dear loved ones. For me it helped to let my feelings out.

Last but not least was beauty beyond darkness. Certainly, for me over the years there was a lot of things that took place that seemed dark but over time I can now see the beauty.

It takes a lot to put myself out there and to in a sense be raw about what I feel and think. For me it’s not easy and perhaps for others it may not be either. I think that for me as long as I continue to ask why and seek for understanding, continue to put love into my life for myself, continue to look past the loss and hold on to memories, continue to see that romance may not be dead after all, that just maybe after all of that I will still be able to see the beauty beyond the darkness.

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